I am not ashamed to announce that I am slightly obsessed with the show Once Upon a Time. I can’t help it! I’ve always loved fairy tales, but the way the writers Edward Kitsis and Adam Horowitz twist up the classic tales in a new and intriguing way, just keeps me constantly coming back for more… and shamelessly eating my nerves away with popcorn!
This random tidbit from the life of Mackenzie is more relevant than you may think, because today, I’m sharing one very important lesson that just so happens to be best explained by watching it through the life of Regina Mills (WARNING: Because I hate when people ruin things for me, you should know these clips may contain small spoilers for those who aren’t finished with Season 4 yet, in case you want to skip to the second half of the post!)…
In these two clips, we see the flashback of Cora’s interaction with her daughter-turned-Evil-Queen first, and then go straight into present-day Regina finally figuring out what her mother meant. Coming from someone who has literally struggled with insecurities and doubts for over ten years, I needed this; so, in Cora’s words…
“The only one standing in the way of your happiness is you.”
Life doesn’t always seem fair, plans don’t always turn out the way we intend, sometimes love is unrequited… I’m not saying that those things shouldn’t ever hurt, but it’s how we handle them that really sets the course for our happiness. Are we going to hold grudges, carry bitterness and negativity around with us, and only focus on all the reasons we aren’t good enough? Or, are we going to forgive others and ourselves, focus on all the good things we still have in our lives, and use our experiences to make us better people? Perspective is everything! And as Eleanor Roosevelt once put it:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
I’m speaking from personal experience, and I can tell you that it HAS to be a daily choice to focus on the positive. My pastor just finished up preaching a series called “Freedom Robbers” at church out of Galatians chapter five. In verse one of this chapter, Paul points out, “It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to the yoke of slavery.”
Jesus died on a cross to set us free so that we could have life more abundant in Him (John 10:10), NOT so that we could continue to live in the chains of sin, doubt, fear, etc. We must make a conscious effort to shift our focus today if we want to be successful at truly making a difference and seeing our dreams become realities. On days when all we can see are our own inadequacies I would encourage us to take the stance of the apostle Paul and even allow those things to shift our minds toward Christ by saying,
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. ~2 Corinthians 12:9
With the right mindset, anything that we have struggled with is a chance for God to be glorified by allowing His strength to bring us victory. You have so much to offer, because God made you, and he placed those passions you have inside of you. So please folks…
Dream big. Believe even bigger.
And most importantly, step aside, and get the heck out of your own way!